Relationship Advice for Love after Trauma
My partner became someone I didn’t even recognize. How do I learn to trust again?
I recently ended an eight year relationship. One month after our break up, in which he showed no reaction to, he showed up out of the blue to confess he had had affairs, plural, throughout our relationship. How is it possible to move forward at this stage in life, and trust someone new, after the person I chose to be with and loved became someone I didn't recognize before my eyes? It's hard to even trust myself now.
How do I heal while I’m in a toxic relationship?
I know that healing and having your own self worth should be something you do regardless of marital status, and I'm nearly certain divorce is the only choice. I can't figure out how to heal WHILE still married to someone who caused me so much pain (grooming, cheating, manipulation, addiction). How can I heal while still being in a toxic relationship?
My partner wants to separate. How do I save my marriage?
I am recently going through a separation because of issues I was causing in our relationship that I was not aware of. I am just heartbroken that I was unknowingly hurting the person I loved. I'm trying to do whatever it takes to regain her trust. How do I get her back and become a better partner?
My wife doesn’t get along with my family which makes holidays stressful
My wife doesn’t get along with my mother and sister which make holiday gatherings stressful for everyone, especially because it’s usually just the four of us. My wife complains that my mother and sister are rude to her and I see that does happen. I’ve told her that’s just how they are. They can be difficult but it’s a lot easier if you know how to manage them which is what I do.
I can’t seem to move on from my vulnerable narcissist partner.
I can't seem to move on after an 11 year textbook toxic relationship with a vulnerable narcissist. It's been 9 months. I'm dating someone else who is great. But the narcissist occupies much more of my brain than I'd like.
How do I stop attracting unhealthy partners?
How do you establish healthy relationships and attract healthy people? I find myself always attracting the wrong, unhealthy type and I'm sure self-confidence, fear comes into play.
Can I have a healthy relationship when I have unhealed trauma?
I fell in love after leaving an abusive relationship and it was the happiest either of us had ever been. Unfortunately, I still had a lot to heal from.
I’m afraid I’ll be bored in a healthy relationship
Are healthy relationships boring? Compared with the dramatic highs and lows of toxic relationships, healthy relationships can initially seem a little flat. Here’s why.
Doing what brings me joy makes my partner uncomfortable
“I’m a burlesque dancer and my husband is nominally supportive, but winces in disgust any time the topic is broached. Please help me understand how to proceed with my art without feeling like I’m betraying my husband.”
How do I say I’m not ready to live together?
“How do I deal with my own trauma when my partner also has conflicting trauma? My girlfriend of almost a year wants to move in as she believes that it will deepen our relationship.”
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