soulful guidance
for healing relationship trauma
and creating deeper connections
Alchemy of Love is the work of Angela Amias and Daniel Boscaljon, offering guidance for healing relationship trauma and creating deeper, more meaningful connections.
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WE’re not born knowing how to communicate in relationships.
For many of us, we missed out on learning healthy communication skills during childhood. Instead of learning how to communicate in ways that allow both people to feel seen, heard, and understood, often we learn patterns of communication that create confusion, hurt, and disconnection. Or we learn that it’s safer to just keep our thoughts and feelings to ourselves … and not communicate.
The secret to fulfilling relationships is learning how to connect with another person through communication. You can start learning the art of communication with our free communication class, The Communication Cure.
Ask Angela: relationship Advice for love After Trauma
Your past doesn’t define you.
You can transform painful relationship experiences into seeds for a joyful future. Healing the hurts from childhood trauma and past relationships requires reclaiming what’s been lost.
Experiencing relationship trauma affects your ability to:
• trust yourself and others
• listen to yourself
• feel connected to yourself
• feel safe being vulnerable with others
• confidently know what you think and how you feel
• care for yourself the way you deserve
• have a clear sense for what’s normal and healthy in romantic relationships
• know that you are fully and completely deserving of being treated well in relationships
Most importantly, relationship trauma can cause you to lose touch with your innate goodness and wholeness. But there’s hope.
Discover the Five Relationship Archetypes
Your Relationship Archetype is like your “relationship personality”—it’s who you are and how you express yourself in relationships. It reflects your basic blueprint of how relationships work, based on what you learned in childhood. Your Relationship Archetype influences the kind of partners you’re drawn toward, as well as the kinds of challenges you’re likely to encounter in your relationships.
Curious what your Relationship Archetype is? Take the quiz HERE.
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about us
We help those with painful childhood experiences heal their relationship with themselves, deepen their connection with others, and learn the skills for having fulfilling relationships.
We created the Five Relationship Archetypes and the Relationship Yes! Test to help people better understand themselves and their patterns in relationships.
Our work also includes the Ask Angela relationship advice column and podcast, as well as the Alchemy of Connection podcast.
We founded the Institute for Trauma Informed Relationships where we offer certification and consultation provide therapists and coaches in trauma informed relationship counseling.
Angela Amias, LCSW
Fulfilling relationships are an essential part of living a good life. Yet, many of us (perhaps even most of us) have core wounds from childhood experiences that affect our ability to have the kinds of intimate relationships in adulthood that we long to have.
As a licensed therapist, I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals and couples to help them heal past trauma and create more meaningful, satisfying relationships with themselves and with intimate partners.
Alongside Daniel, I developed the Five Relationship Archetypes as a model that reflects the different ways that childhood relationship trauma impacts our adult relationships.
This model takes into account our unique and inborn temperaments as well as the kinds of messages we internalize during childhood — about ourselves and how we need to be in order to have relationships with others. And, more importantly, it lays out a path toward healing, by first helping you reconnect with the parts of yourself that you lost along the way … parts that weren’t accepted or safe to express when you were growing up.
It’s my belief that difficult experiences break us open to become more of who we are meant to be.
As a trauma survivor myself, and as a therapist, I’ve made it my mission to walk alongside others as you find your path toward healing and discovering a life of more meaning and joy.
I’ve been featured in a range of publications, including Today, Oprah, Cosmopolitan, Well + Good, The Independent, Salon, Inc., Forbes, Toronto Sun, Women’s Health, and Refinery29.
Daniel Boscaljon, PHD
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself.
It’s also true that your connections with others can never be better than your relationship with yourself, which is why healing painful or traumatic experiences from childhood is such a vital part of having meaningful, satisfying relationships in adulthood.
My own personal search for how to cultivate a meaningful life came after years of feeling disconnected from others and from myself.
Though I entered graduate school focused on the intellectual aspects of earning a PhD in Religious Studies (and then another one in English), I discovered along the way how to use what I learned to repair the inner fractures of my own life.
As I reconnected with myself, I found that I was better able to connect with others as well.
With over twenty years of experience working with individuals, I focus on translating theories of love into practical guidance that helps you create meaningful, fulfilling relationships.
I’ve presented internationally on the topics of love and intimacy, and have been interviewed in publications including NBC News, Newsweek, Harper’s Bazaar, MindBodyGreen, Forbes, Salon, FastCompany, Business Insider, and Verywell Mind.
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Relationship workshops
For Individuals and Couples
RElationshiP Communication 101
6 week program
Good communication is essential if you want to have a healthy relationship. Learn all the communication skills you need to help your relationship thrive. Consider this class the Relationship Education you never got in school—clear, practical, and easy to apply.
$197
RElationshiP rebooT
5 week program
You began with the dream of happily ever after. Now discover a life that’s happier than ever with our program designed for long-term couples. Relationship Reboot will remind you why you said yes in the beginning and give you new reasons to keep saying yes.
$197
Healing your heart
4 week program
Healing after a toxic relationship means more than just moving on. This program offers a steady path for making sense of what you’ve been through. It helps you rebuild your sense of self, understand your patterns, and move forward without repeating the same patterns.
$197
Love Takes Many Forms.
We’re committed to expressing our love for the world by giving back to those most in need. That’s why we donate 10% of our profits from program sales to charity.
Karmic relationships are powerful. Intense. Passionate. Volatile. While other kinds of relationships might feel like a peaceful stroll through a meadow, karmic relationships are more like white water rafting. Most of the time, you’re holding on for dear life and trying to white knuckle your way through turbulent times together.