Relationship reboot
You began with the dream of happily ever after.
now discover a life that’s happier than ever.
If you’ve been stuck in a relationship rut for a while, it’s easy to lose hope …
… or to feel like you’re just supposed to settle for a relationship that’s not what you imagined when you first got together.
It’s common to lose track of each other while you’re juggling all the concerns of daily life. And once you’ve been disconnected for a while, it can be hard to figure out how to find your way back to each other again.
When this happens, you may try to convince yourself that this is “just what marriage is like.”
Especially if you grew up (as many of us did) without role models for what a fulfilling long-term relationship looks like. And if you look around you, you probably see other examples of married couples who grow more distant with time, more dissatisfied with how things have become. It can start to seem not only normal, but actually inevitable.
But it’s not inevitable. Things can get better. And we can show you how.
Research shows that the average unhappy couple waits 6 years to get relationship help.
We understand just how tempting it can be to ignore relationship problems, especially when you don’t know how to solve them.
But the problems we ignore don’t wait for us to be ready to deal with them. While we try to ignore them, they continue to get worse.
We created Relationship Reboot as an alternative to waiting and hoping things might get better.
We believe that long-term relationships thrive when you know how to create the right conditions for love to flourish.
The magic that you felt when you first got together? It’s still there … like the embers of a fire, just waiting to be stoked into flame again.
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That’s where relationship reboot comes in.
Like any living thing, relationships need to be nurtured and cared for in order to continue to grow and deepen over the years.
With all the demands of daily life, it’s easy to unintentionally put your relationship on autopilot.
We get it. We’ve been there too.
Strong relationships can coast along without much attention for a little while … which is important because when you’re dealing with a life crisis or you have small children, you’re not going to be able to give your relationship the care, time, and attention that it deserves.
The problem is when this lack of care and attention goes on for too long and starts to become just how life is. Sometimes what’s most important to us—like our intimate relationships—can end up in the background of our lives. Taken for granted. Put on the back burner until the day when we have more time to do something about it.
In fact, research shows that we tend to overestimate the time we’ll have in the future for the things we want to do, rather than making time for what matters to us right now.
Relationship Reboot helps you bring your relationship back to the foreground again, front and center, where it belongs.
We guide you in rediscovering the heart of your relationship—that spark that first brought you together.
RELATIONSHIP REBOOT REMINDS YOU WHY YOU SAID YES IN THE BEGINNING AND GIVES YOU NEW REASONS TO CONTINUE SAYING YES.
Even though it may seem counter-intuitive, we've discovered in our work with couples that the most effective way to revitalize your connection is by sharing time in ways that feel natural and fun.
Not only does this sound better than "working on your relationship," it actually yields better results.
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here's what's in store for you when you sign up for Relationship Reboot.
Each week, you’ll receive a video to watch together on the theme for the week, with conversation questions to talk over. You can think of the guided conversations you’ll have each week as “conversational stepping stones” that lead you back to the heart of your relationship.
Each week also includes a beautiful activity guide with three relationship-building activities that expand on the theme for the week.
Over the course of Relationship Reboot, this means you'll have the opportunity to explore fifteen different ways to nurture your relationship.
Relationship Reboot is backed by a 30 day, 100% money back guarantee so you can buy with confidence.
Relationship Reboot, Week by Week
Week One: Encountering Wonder
This week you’ll revisit the origins of your relationship, returning to the time when you first fell in love and reflecting on what made that time so special. The activities for this week focus on learning to see your partner with new eyes, spending time being curious about each other, and appreciating the special qualities of your unique relationship.
Week two: enchanting play
This week is all about play, which has been described as one basic foundation for bonding and communication in many species, including humans. Play allows us to connect with each other in spontaneous ways. Best of all, playful interactions can be deeply pleasurable, which makes engaging in play an instantly rewarding way to spend time together that also has long-lasting benefits for your relationship.
Week three: embracing growth
This week focuses on how to nurture your relationship in ways that help you grow together into the future. We explore the difference between your relationship changing over time (which is inevitable) and helping your relationship to grow. We explore the role of growth in creating a thriving long term relationship. And we talk about how you can influence the direction of your growth so you continuing growing closer over time.
Week four: exploring the depths
Some of the most valuable and important riches of your relationship are present in the spaces of deep connection. To travel into the depths of your relationship is like diving to the bottom of the ocean: it requires setting aside time. It’s worth it. The best part of going deeper is that things tend to be still and calm in the depths even when there are storms on the surface. Becoming more comfortable with these deep places of connection helps you weather the stressful times all couples encounter.
Week five: experiencing connection
Instead of introducing new content this week, we’re devoting this time to integrating everything you’ve done so far. We’ll invite you to consider what the most meaningful and important parts of Relationship Reboot are for you. The activities this week focus on looking toward your future together, as you can continue to explore, play, grow, and deepen together.
Relationship Reboot is a 5 week, instant access program designed for couples.
1. When you sign up, you’ll receive a welcome email with all the details about the course and how to prepare for the Relationship Reboot experience.
2. For the next five Mondays, you will receive an email with a link to the class page, where you’ll find that week’s activities.
3. The class is self-paced which means that you and your partner have the flexibility to engage in the course materials during times that work with your schedules.
4. Relax and enjoy. This program includes lifetime access, so you can revisit the lessons and activities whenever you like.
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about us
We help those with painful childhood experiences to heal your relationship with yourself, deeply connect with others, and learn the skills for having fulfilling relationships.
We’re the creators of the Five Relationship Archetypes. We’re also the hosts of the Alchemy of Connection podcast and the creators of the Relationship Yes! Test.
We founded the Institute for Trauma Informed Relationships to provide certification and consultation to therapists and coaches in Trauma Informed Relationship Counseling for Individuals and Couples.
Angela Amias, LCSW
Fulfilling relationships are an essential part of living a good life and yet, many of us (perhaps even most of us) have core wounds from childhood experiences that affect our ability to have the kinds of intimate relationships in adulthood that we long to have. As a licensed therapist, I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals and couples to help them heal past trauma and create more meaningful, satisfying relationships with themselves and with intimate partners.
Alongside Daniel, I developed the Five Relationship Archetypes as a model that reflects the different ways that childhood relationship trauma impacts our adult relationships. This model takes into account our unique and inborn temperaments as well as the kinds of messages we internalize during childhood—about ourselves and how we need to be in order to have relationships with others. And, more importantly, it lays out a path toward healing, by first helping you reconnect with the parts of yourself that you lost along the way … parts that weren’t accepted or safe to express when you were growing up.
It’s my belief that difficult experiences break us open to become more of who we are meant to be. As a trauma survivor myself, and as a therapist, I’ve made it my mission to walk alongside others as you find your path toward healing and discovering a life of more meaning and joy.
I’ve been a featured relationship expert in many publications, including Today, Oprah, Cosmopolitan, Well + Good, The Independent, Salon, Inc., Forbes, Toronto Sun, Women’s Health, Refinery29, and many others.
You can read my full bio HERE.
Daniel Boscaljon, PHD
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. It’s also true that your connections with others can never be better than your relationship with yourself, which is why healing painful or traumatic experiences from childhood is such a vital part of having meaningful, satisfying relationships in adulthood.
My own personal search for how to cultivate a meaningful life came after years of feeling disconnected from others and from myself. Though I entered graduate school focused on the intellectual aspects of earning a PhD in Religious Studies (and then another one in English), I discovered along the way how to use what I learned to repair the inner fractures of my own life. As I reconnected with myself, I found that I was better able to connect with others as well.
As an award-winning teacher with over twenty year of experience working with individuals and couples, my mission is to translate theories of love into practical guidance that helps you create meaningful, fulfilling relationships. I’ve presented internationally on the topics of love and intimacy.
As a relationship expert, I’ve been featured in many publications, including NBC News, Newsweek, Harper’s Bazaar, MindBodyGreen, Forbes, Salon, Fast Company, Business Insider, Fatherly, and AskMen.
