relationship workshops
for individuals & couples
Relationship workshops
For Individuals and Couples
relationship reboot
5 week program.
You began with the dream of happily ever after. Now discover a life that’s happier than ever. Relationship Reboot will remind you why you said yes in the beginning and give you new reasons to keep saying yes.
$197
RElationshiP Communication 101
6 week program.
Good communication is essential if you want to have a healthy relationship. Learn all the communication skills you need to help your relationship thrive. Consider this class the Relationship Education you never got in school.
$197
Date night movie of the month Club
6 month program.
When you want to be more connected in your relationship, sometimes it’s hard to know where to start. We’ve transformed the old standby of dinner and a movie into a monthly experience you’ll not only enjoy—it will also deepen your relationship.
$127
Learn more about how past trauma and painful childhood experiences impact intimate relationships in adulthood and how to create the kind of relationship you deserve.
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WE’re not born knowing how to communicate in relationships.
Many of us missed out on learning healthy communication skills during childhood. Instead of learning how to communicate in ways that allow both people to feel seen, heard, and understood, often we learn patterns of communication that create confusion, hurt, and disconnection. Or we learn that it’s safer to just keep our thoughts and feelings to ourselves … and not communicate.
The secret to fulfilling relationships is learning how to connect with another person through communication. You can start learning the art of communication with our free communication class, Love … with Words.
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relationship workshops
for couples
Hi there. I’m Angela Amias. I’m a therapist for couples and individuals who’ve experienced past trauma or painful childhood experiences that create difficulties in their adult relationships. I’m also the co-creator of the Five Relationship Archetypes and the creator of Trauma-Informed Couples Therapy and Relationship Counseling for Individuals.
If you’re struggling in your relationship and you don’t know where to go for help and support, I get it. And I want you to know that you’re not alone.
Did you know that research shows the average unhappy couple waits 6 years to get relationship help? 6 years is a long time, especially when you’re feeling disconnected, hurt, or frustrated in your relationship.
I understand how tempting it can be to ignore problems and hope that they’ll go away … especially when you don’t know how to solve them or where to go for help.
Unfortunately, the problems we ignore don’t wait for us. In fact, they get worse.
We created our relationship workshops as an alternative to waiting.
As a couples therapist, I’ve seen so many couples who waited to get help until one person was on the verge of leaving the relationship. Their longstanding problems had been ignored … or problems were dealt with in ways that caused more problems, leading to hurt, resentment, and disappointment.
The truth is that we don’t get an education on how to have healthy relationships that continue to flourish over the long-term. This is especially the case for those of us, myself included, who didn’t get the benefit of having healthy relationship role models during childhood.
Instead, what many of us experience during childhood is seeing role models we don’t want to be like when we grow up. As children, we might even make a promise to ourselves: “I’m never going to be like them.”
Unfortunately, making this kind of promise to ourselves during childhood takes us out of the frying pan and puts us right in the fire.
Why? Because when we form our understanding of how to be in a relationship, based on trying to become the opposite of an unhealthy or destructive role model … we still end up with a distorted, problematic approach to intimate relationships.
For example, several years ago, I worked with a woman named Lianna* (not her real name) who came to me because she was really frustrated with her marriage and she was utterly exhausted by her job.
In her marriage, she felt unheard and unappreciated. No matter how much she gave in her relationship (and she gave a lot) she never got back what she was hoping for from her husband. And as a result, Lianna felt bitter, resentful, and angry … which led to frequent blow-ups and periods of not speaking … but it never led to anything changing in their relationship.
Together, we worked to uncover what she’d learned about relationships as a child and how that affected her understanding of who she needed to be in her marriage. Ever since she was little, Lianna had been raised to believe that wanting someone to meet her needs was selfish. And, at the same time, she didn’t want to be anything like her mother “who always made everything about herself.”
Lianna had grown up with the mistaken assumption that if she sacrificed her own needs long enough and focused on taking care of her husband’s needs, eventually he’d start meeting her needs … without her ever needing to ask directly.
As we worked together, she came to understand how her childhood experiences created a working model of relationships that wasn’t actually working in her relationship. In fact, it was her working model of relationships that was causing Lianna so many problems.
Once Lianna recognized this, she started making changes, based on rediscovering who she really was and what she really wanted in her life. She learned how to start speaking up for herself in her relationship. She learned how to ask for what she needed (and she was surprised by how her husband responded to her needs, once she spoke them directly).
And, perhaps most importantly, she learned how to say no. Not just in her marriage, but also in friendships and at work. As a result, she was happier in her relationships and she stopped feeling so over-burdened and under-appreciated at work.
And, as we worked together to help Lianna rediscover her true self, she was able to see herself in a whole new light. She felt a deeper appreciation for all her unique gifts and she recognized how resilient she was to have made it through her childhood as well as she did.
We’re taught that Good relationships require a lot of hard work.
when that’s not helping, we often try working even harder.
Doing more of the same without getting results is like pushing harder and harder against a locked door … instead of unlocking it.
In our experience, most relationship problems are the result of two things.
First, it’s vital to understand how your past experiences are influencing your current relationship patterns.
While the impact of early trauma on adult relationships is frequently noted by trauma experts, there’s been very little in terms of practical, useful advice or programs that adults with childhood trauma can use to improve their own relationships. That’s why we created Archetypes of Love.
Second, many individuals and couples have missed out on learning the specific relationship skills that are essential for sustaining satisfying long-term relationships.
These skills including know how to communicate in ways that deepen your connection, how to work through disagreements in ways that bring you closer together, and how to spend time together in ways that truly enhance your relationship. That’s why we created Relationship Communication 101, Relationship Reboot, and our other workshops for couples.
all our programs reflect our belief that relationships thrive when we create the right conditions for love to flourish.
we’ve helped hundreds of individuals
and couples learn how to:
‣ Heal underlying beliefs and patterns from the past that prevent you from having the kind of relationship—with yourself and with others—that you truly deserve
‣ Learn how to respond to tender spots in your relationship with compassion and care
‣ Experience the healing power of connection to repair old wounds in your relationship
‣ Reconnect meaningfully when you’ve become disconnected
‣ Move from fighting against each other to joining forces to address problems together
‣ Transform repetitive sources of conflict into opportunities to grow closer and stronger as a couple
‣ Stop avoiding the hard conversations & learn how to talk in ways that increase intimacy and trust
‣ Communicate in ways that bring you closer together, instead of pushing you further apart
‣ Create simple rituals that help you stay connected in your busy day-to-day life
‣ Discover your unique gifts and talents in relationships and learn how to use them more intentionally in your relationships
‣ Learn how to integrate the gifts of all five Relationship Archetypes into your repertoire of relationship skills
‣ Uncover the unique strengths of your particular relationship and learn how to use these strengths to navigate challenges in your relationship
‣ Spend time together in ways that actually help you create the relationship you really want
‣ Experience how pleasure can lead you to the joy of simply being together
‣ Create a vision for how you want your relationship to feel, a vision that can guide you into a better future
For our relationship workshops,
We’ve brought together the most powerful and effective tools,
teachings, and techniques from my work as a couples therapist,
to help you become the expert on your relationships.
Our relationship workshops are specifically designed to bring together the best research on relationships and trauma, paired with our insights honed through fifteen years of experience working with hundreds of individuals and couples.
We want to support you in becoming your own expert—on yourself and your relationships. Our programs give you the guidance, support, and information you need to learn new skills and then practice them … so you can develop muscle memory and soul memory for the kind of relationships you’ve always wanted.
We give you all the tools you need to become an effective, loving caretaker of yourself and your relationship.
about us
We help those with painful childhood experiences to heal your relationship with yourself, deeply connect with others, and learn the skills for having fulfilling relationships.
We’re the creators of the Five Relationship Archetypes. We’re also the hosts of the Alchemy of Connection podcast and the creators of the Relationship Yes! Test.
We founded the Institute for Trauma Informed Relationships to provide certification and consultation to therapists and coaches in Trauma Informed Relationship Counseling for Individuals and Couples.
Angela Amias, LCSW
Fulfilling relationships are an essential part of living a good life and yet, many of us (perhaps even most of us) have core wounds from childhood experiences that affect our ability to have the kinds of intimate relationships in adulthood that we long to have. As a licensed therapist, I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals and couples to help them heal past trauma and create more meaningful, satisfying relationships with themselves and with intimate partners.
Alongside Daniel, I developed the Five Relationship Archetypes as a model that reflects the different ways that childhood relationship trauma impacts our adult relationships. This model takes into account our unique and inborn temperaments as well as the kinds of messages we internalize during childhood—about ourselves and how we need to be in order to have relationships with others. And, more importantly, it lays out a path toward healing, by first helping you reconnect with the parts of yourself that you lost along the way … parts that weren’t accepted or safe to express when you were growing up.
It’s my belief that difficult experiences break us open to become more of who we are meant to be. As a trauma survivor myself, and as a therapist, I’ve made it my mission to walk alongside others as you find your path toward healing and discovering a life of more meaning and joy.
I’ve been a featured relationship expert in many publications, including Today, Oprah, Cosmopolitan, Well + Good, The Independent, Salon, Inc., Forbes, Toronto Sun, Women’s Health, Refinery29, and many others.
You can read my full bio HERE.
Daniel Boscaljon, PHD
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. It’s also true that your connections with others can never be better than your relationship with yourself, which is why healing painful or traumatic experiences from childhood is such a vital part of having meaningful, satisfying relationships in adulthood.
My own personal search for how to cultivate a meaningful life came after years of feeling disconnected from others and from myself. Though I entered graduate school focused on the intellectual aspects of earning a PhD in Religious Studies (and then another one in English), I discovered along the way how to use what I learned to repair the inner fractures of my own life. As I reconnected with myself, I found that I was better able to connect with others as well.
As an award-winning teacher with over twenty year of experience working with individuals and couples, my mission is to translate theories of love into practical guidance that helps you create meaningful, fulfilling relationships. I’ve presented internationally on the topics of love and intimacy.
As a relationship expert, I’ve been featured in many publications, including NBC News, Newsweek, Harper’s Bazaar, MindBodyGreen, Forbes, Salon, Fast Company, Business Insider, Fatherly, and AskMen.
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