Relationship Advice for Love after Trauma
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I want to be a better listener—but I can’t stop interrupting my partner!
I have a habit of listening and interrupting my spouse when she talks, because I feel the need to respond to something she said. How can I move away from this behavior? I know it’s not fair to her.
After 15 years of gaslighting, how can I be sure I wasn’t the problem?
I’ve learned I was gaslit for 15+ years in my marriage before I left. I was always the problem. Now that I’ve left, how do I know that I’m not that person? I know my heart is good and true, but what if she was right? I’m having trouble believing myself—am I actually good or just acting good?
Why won't my partner take emotional responsibility in our relationship?
I’m very much aware of my flaws and shortcomings. How do I convince my spouse or help them realize they also have issues to work through?
I grew up with constant fighting. Now I shut down during conflict. How can I work through this?
Growing up with parents fighting constantly has affected me in so many ways. Now, I have the tendency to shut down in difficult conversations. I withdraw into myself and just freeze up. My head goes blank, and it's difficult for me to focus on the conversation at hand. What are some effective ways to work through this?
My spouse and I both have past trauma and poor communication skills. Can we get better together?
If both you and your spouse have past trauma and poor communication skills, is it possible to heal together and learn how to have a better relationship? What if one spouse is more receptive to the journey than the other?
How do I foster growth in my relationship without my partner’s help?
How do I foster growth in a relationship when the other person is unwilling to put the necessary time aside weekly to communicate openly. I admittedly get flustered easily and raise my voice unintentionally. I think it’s because I feel that I’m not being heard every time I ask to talk about things going on.
How do I stop being so defensive in my relationship?
What can I do to stop falling into defense mode when my partners raises issues he has with me?
Doing what brings me joy makes my partner uncomfortable
“I’m a burlesque dancer and my husband is nominally supportive, but winces in disgust any time the topic is broached. Please help me understand how to proceed with my art without feeling like I’m betraying my husband.”
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