Relationship Advice for Love after Trauma

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Angela Amias 7/29/25 Angela Amias 7/29/25

He’s a black-and-white thinker. I see the gray. How do we talk?

I want to improve my communication skills. I can't seem to communicate with my husband. I think I need help in fully listening to him and then answering him directly. He likes short, accurate answers: “yes” or “no.” His thinking is black and white and I am more of a gray thinker.

Angela Amias 7/15/25 Angela Amias 7/15/25

I want to be a better listener—but I can’t stop interrupting my partner!

I have a habit of listening and interrupting my spouse when she talks, because I feel the need to respond to something she said. How can I move away from this behavior? I know it’s not fair to her.

Angela Amias 6/30/25 Angela Amias 6/30/25

After 15 years of gaslighting, how can I be sure I wasn’t the problem?

I’ve learned I was gaslit for 15+ years in my marriage before I left. I was always the problem. Now that I’ve left, how do I know that I’m not that person? I know my heart is good and true, but what if she was right? I’m having trouble believing myself—am I actually good or just acting good?

Angela Amias 6/19/25 Angela Amias 6/19/25

Why won't my partner take emotional responsibility in our relationship?

I’m very much aware of my flaws and shortcomings. How do I convince my spouse or help them realize they also have issues to work through?

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