Welcome, Hidden Gem.
About the Hidden Gem Archetype
Gems are prized for their uniqueness and originality. You’re no exception.
Just like a gem, you’re multifaceted. You’ve got many varied aspects that combine to make you the distinctive, delightfully quirky person you are.
Your personality shines differently in different environments, depending on what part of you is illuminated in each situation.
You can be as sparkly as a diamond in social settings where you feel at ease.
Because you have so many different sides to yourself, how you express yourself in any given situation depends on the setting. You’re exceptionally adept at showing the parts of yourself most suited to the particular context you find yourself in.
Some friends might know you as a deeply sensitive, artistic soul while others know you as someone who’s adventurous and playful.
Like a chameleon, you’re very versatile. That’s not to say you pretend to be someone you’re not. You just learned somewhere along the way that sometimes it’s easier to get along when you adapt yourself to meet others where they’re at.
When it comes to close relationships, you’re both self-aware and insightful about others. This feeds into your ability to get along with lots of different people. You have the rare combination of both knowing yourself well while also having an intuitive sense for others’ desires and preferences.
As a Hidden Gem, your multifaceted nature makes it easy to be accommodating in your relationships.
You're accustomed to displaying the parts of your personality best suited to each particular relationship and you often do this without even being consciously aware of it.
A lifetime of adapting to the preferences of those around you has made you a cherished friend and a confidant whose insights are valued deeply. You value autonomy (your own and others') and you lean toward being more independent in relationships.
Hold tight to your flexible, responsive nature. Now it’s time to also start making more space to let your whole self shine in your relationships.
We’ll be exploring the next steps in your journey as a Hidden Gem in our email series. Keep an eye on your inbox. Your guide to the Innocent Dreamer is on its way to you right now.
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about us
We help those with painful childhood experiences heal their relationship with themselves, deepen their connection with others, and learn the skills for having fulfilling relationships.
We created the Five Relationship Archetypes and the Relationship Yes! Test to help people better understand themselves and their patterns in relationships.
Our work also includes the Ask Angela relationship advice column and podcast, as well as the Alchemy of Connection podcast.
We founded the Institute for Trauma Informed Relationships where we offer certification and consultation provide therapists and coaches in trauma informed relationship counseling.
Angela Amias, LCSW
Fulfilling relationships are an essential part of living a good life. Yet, many of us (perhaps even most of us) have core wounds from childhood experiences that affect our ability to have the kinds of intimate relationships in adulthood that we long to have.
As a licensed therapist, I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals and couples to help them heal past trauma and create more meaningful, satisfying relationships with themselves and with intimate partners.
Alongside Daniel, I developed the Five Relationship Archetypes as a model that reflects the different ways that childhood relationship trauma impacts our adult relationships.
This model takes into account our unique and inborn temperaments as well as the kinds of messages we internalize during childhood — about ourselves and how we need to be in order to have relationships with others. And, more importantly, it lays out a path toward healing, by first helping you reconnect with the parts of yourself that you lost along the way … parts that weren’t accepted or safe to express when you were growing up.
It’s my belief that difficult experiences break us open to become more of who we are meant to be.
As a trauma survivor myself, and as a therapist, I’ve made it my mission to walk alongside others as you find your path toward healing and discovering a life of more meaning and joy.
I’ve been featured in a range of publications, including Today, Oprah, Cosmopolitan, Well + Good, The Independent, Salon, Inc., Forbes, Toronto Sun, Women’s Health, and Refinery29.
Daniel Boscaljon, PHD
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself.
It’s also true that your connections with others can never be better than your relationship with yourself, which is why healing painful or traumatic experiences from childhood is such a vital part of having meaningful, satisfying relationships in adulthood.
My own personal search for how to cultivate a meaningful life came after years of feeling disconnected from others and from myself.
Though I entered graduate school focused on the intellectual aspects of earning a PhD in Religious Studies (and then another one in English), I discovered along the way how to use what I learned to repair the inner fractures of my own life.
As I reconnected with myself, I found that I was better able to connect with others as well.
With over twenty years of experience working with individuals, I focus on translating theories of love into practical guidance that helps you create meaningful, fulfilling relationships.
I’ve presented internationally on the topics of love and intimacy, and have been interviewed in publications including NBC News, Newsweek, Harper’s Bazaar, MindBodyGreen, Forbes, Salon, FastCompany, Business Insider, and Verywell Mind.
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