Articles on Love, Relationships, and Healing
These articles offer relationship advice, insight, and guidance on love, connection, and healing, helping you better understand your patterns and create more fulfilling relationships.
How to Love Yourself Again After a Toxic Relationship Ends
Healthy relationships have the ability to encourage self love and a positive relationship with yourself. But when you’ve lived through a toxic relationship, you also know the dark side of relationships, which is that they can also be terribly destructive to your self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Learning to love yourself just as you are is a vital part of healing after a breakup, especially when the relationship was toxic or abusive. Healing after a toxic relationship begins with healing your relationship with yourself and rediscovering your innate self-worth.
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What’s Your Relationship Archetype?
Take the Five Relationship Archetypes quiz and find out how to use your unique gifts to create deeper, more satisfying relationships.
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WE’re not born knowing how to communicate in relationships.
For many of us, we missed out on learning healthy communication skills during childhood. Instead of learning how to communicate in ways that allow both people to feel seen, heard, and understood, often we learn patterns of communication that create confusion, hurt, and disconnection. Or we learn that it’s safer to just keep our thoughts and feelings to ourselves … and not communicate.
The secret to fulfilling relationships is learning how to connect with another person through communication. You can start learning the art of communication with our free communication class, The Communication Cure.
about us
We help those with painful childhood experiences heal their relationship with themselves, deepen their connection with others, and learn the skills for having fulfilling relationships.
We created the Five Relationship Archetypes and the Relationship Yes! Test to help people better understand themselves and their patterns in relationships.
Our work also includes the Ask Angela relationship advice column and podcast, as well as the Alchemy of Connection podcast.
We founded the Institute for Trauma Informed Relationships where we offer certification and consultation provide therapists and coaches in trauma informed relationship counseling.
Angela Amias, LCSW
Fulfilling relationships are an essential part of living a good life. Yet, many of us (perhaps even most of us) have core wounds from childhood experiences that affect our ability to have the kinds of intimate relationships in adulthood that we long to have.
As a licensed therapist, I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals and couples to help them heal past trauma and create more meaningful, satisfying relationships with themselves and with intimate partners.
Alongside Daniel, I developed the Five Relationship Archetypes as a model that reflects the different ways that childhood relationship trauma impacts our adult relationships.
This model takes into account our unique and inborn temperaments as well as the kinds of messages we internalize during childhood — about ourselves and how we need to be in order to have relationships with others. And, more importantly, it lays out a path toward healing, by first helping you reconnect with the parts of yourself that you lost along the way … parts that weren’t accepted or safe to express when you were growing up.
It’s my belief that difficult experiences break us open to become more of who we are meant to be.
As a trauma survivor myself, and as a therapist, I’ve made it my mission to walk alongside others as you find your path toward healing and discovering a life of more meaning and joy.
I’ve been featured in a range of publications, including Today, Oprah, Cosmopolitan, Well + Good, The Independent, Salon, Inc., Forbes, Toronto Sun, Women’s Health, and Refinery29.
Daniel Boscaljon, PHD
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself.
It’s also true that your connections with others can never be better than your relationship with yourself, which is why healing painful or traumatic experiences from childhood is such a vital part of having meaningful, satisfying relationships in adulthood.
My own personal search for how to cultivate a meaningful life came after years of feeling disconnected from others and from myself.
Though I entered graduate school focused on the intellectual aspects of earning a PhD in Religious Studies (and then another one in English), I discovered along the way how to use what I learned to repair the inner fractures of my own life.
As I reconnected with myself, I found that I was better able to connect with others as well.
With over twenty years of experience working with individuals, I focus on translating theories of love into practical guidance that helps you create meaningful, fulfilling relationships.
I’ve presented internationally on the topics of love and intimacy, and have been interviewed in publications including NBC News, Newsweek, Harper’s Bazaar, MindBodyGreen, Forbes, Salon, FastCompany, Business Insider, and Verywell Mind.
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